Hi, I’m Margot Zaher
Empowerment Coach, Relationship Expert, and Bestselling Author
Let me tell you a bit about myself.
I had an unusual upbringing with parents who were raw foodists living off the land in rural Louisiana, and later living in a commune with my mother and brother.
The problem is, I hated being different. I wanted to be just like everyone else so that I would be accepted by my peers. I tried to be all sorts of things to all sorts of people. But I was miserable. Instead of listening to my heart and my inner truth, I had decided to play it safe.
“I’m thankful for all the gifts life has given me even if some of these have first appeared to be losses.”
Out of college, I went the traditional corporate route and got a job with Procter & Gamble—in Paris, France no less.
This felt like a dream come true, and all my friends were so envious, but I quickly felt like a fish out of water. I had to contort myself to fit into the P&G world and pretend to be someone I wasn’t in order to be successful. I was utterly miserable and I was letting fear of the unknown keep me stuck in what became a Golden Cage—a trap with the outward appearance of success.
Finally, one day I woke up and realized I needed help! I started on a journey of personal growth where I dived deep inside and cleared away emotional debris and limiting beliefs. Slowly I came to realize that I was loveable exactly as I was and that people were drawn to me when I showed up as my true self.
What a relief it was to discover this. Finally, I was free to be me and go after my dreams.
I quit my job and started down a road of over 25 years of study and transformational work that included earning a Masters in Psychology and becoming a certified personal coach, hypnotherapist and EMDR facilitator. I have also extensively studied the Enneagram of Personality, Gestalt therapy, meditation, shamanic practices, and yoga.
Not only has my life transformed thanks to this deep transformational path, but I have crafted all of this into effective life and relationship coaching protocols that support my clients in reclaiming their own power and going for their dreams.
I’m profoundly grateful that my
healing journey has helped me to:
Years ago, I was married and deeply in love with my husband. I thought we had a good life together even if it wasn’t perfect. We shared the same dreams, belief systems, and mission in the world. We had a successful online business, and lived a jet-set lifestyle traveling around the world, and having tons of fun.
Then suddenly, my ex-husband fell in love with another woman. He said he still loved me too and wanted to be with both of us—which the other woman was willing to do. I twisted and turned myself to accommodate this, telling myself it was a healthy stretch, that I could handle it. But it wasn’t healthy. Very quickly it was evident that it would not work for me.
I asked my ex-husband to terminate the relationship with this other woman since I wanted to be in a monogamous relationship. He was not willing to do so and I realized I could not stay in the marriage. I demanded that we get a divorce. At first my self-esteem plummeted, and I was enraged and grief-stricken.
After a powerful healing journey, I realized that the end of my marriage was exactly what I had needed and that the woman who broke up my marriage gave me the greatest gift of all: the ability to see that I had been pretending to be someone I was not in order to win my husband’s love, and that, happy as it all seemed—even to me—I had never really experienced the kind of intimacy I desired with him. My anger turned to gratitude. I am profoundly grateful for the role this woman played as a catalyst that freed me from my marriage trap.
Fast forward many years, I am now living with the love of my life. I feel 100% loved and accepted exactly as I am.
He is my soulmate, someone who naturally meets me on all levels, and with whom I’m experiencing profound love, connection, and intimacy. I am profoundly grateful for the relationship reset journey that began all those years ago.